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When the person you look after moves into a care home

Although not a bereavement, having someone you look after move into a care home can be very difficult and it can feel very strange not having them to look after. Residential or nursing care for the person you care for might be a difficult option to consider. It may feel like you are letting your loved one down, letting other family members down or giving up on them, but it is important to remember that you can only do so much as a carer. Levels of care you can give may be limited by what can be provided in your home, and the physical and mental impacts caring can have may mean your loved one moving into a care home is the best decision for both of you.

The Relatives & Residents Association has some great advice on talking to your loved one about moving into a care home and more. They also have a helpline for carers who may feel guilty about stopping caring, need advice on the next steps and more.

Remember, even if your loved one moves into a care home, you may still be a carer. You may still spend a lot of time visiting the person you care for in their care home, helping with care and keeping the person you care for company.

The Carers Trust has some great advice on caring for someone in a care home around benefits, carers assessments and more.

Read our blog post on coping with a loved on in a care home during the coronavirus lockdown and how you can stay connected to them.

Click the links below to see more of our bereavement and loss resource pages:

  • Where to get help
  • Practical advice
  • Life after caring

Remember you are not alone. We are here for you.

Call us on 0800 181 4118 (Monday – Thursday 9:30 – 4:30, Fridays 9:30 – 4:00) or email us at